Two days ago, a loved one of mine passed. At first I thought that I had lost something. It became clear to me this morning that instead, I am a greater person because of the piece of this person that will always be a part of me. It became evident, just as the parables of the Bible or any other spiritual doctrine, our lives are about learning and growing through love, through the stories developed throughout our life exchanges as others become a part of our experience.
A parable is defined as 1) a story, usually short and fictitious that illustrates a moral attitude or religious principle 2) something (such as a news story or a series of real events) likened to a parable in providing an instructive example or lesson.
Just as Jesus walked the earth and illustrated how to live and love, that is exactly what each of us are meant to do. I can’t say that I lost a loved one this week, because I did not. I gained so much more as I think of the parable of this person’s life and its meaning in my own and in the lives that this amazing person touched.
I’ve always explained to those that I counsel that are grieving that the person that they are grieving is not gone, but remain alive within us. I explain that they are grieving the separation from the physical – our loved ones, friends, family, and people that we care about are always with us because they live on within us, in our memories, in our heart, and in our soul. The beautiful memories that we share, the wonderful things that they brought to our lives, they live on because we have learned though their parable how to be an even better version of ourselves.
The instructive example of those that we interact with is part of our learning and growing experience. A person never dies – they live on through our love for them. As we reflect on the beauty of those that have passed, it is important to understand their purpose in our lives, no matter how brief, because we have been blessed with a gift from God – that person is our gift and we must realize that the physical component only served a portion of the purpose as the illustration and their story was developed and performed. We get to choose how to live the legacy that they shared with us because they loved us so much.
Yes, I miss the physical element, but I know that there is more of me now, even more complete, because I was honored to have this person grace and bless my life with love. There is even more of me now to give, share, and love others.
May this message comfort those who struggle with loss. Understand, you haven’t lost – you are so much more for having loved who you grieve. Grieving is a natural part of healing. Sadness is okay, just remember that it not detract you from this being a time of reflection so that you can understand the purpose and meaning of your dear ones.
“The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart” ~ Helen Keller
I wish you a beautiful and peace-filled week. Namaste.
Jolene holds Doctorate of Management in Organizational Leadership and is a certified master success coach. Jolene's writing is continually inspired by the challenges that her clients are facing. She finds constant inspiration in the world around her and is profoundly honored to be living her purpose helping others turn impossible into possible.