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Pain, disappointment, and hurt- when we experience these emotions it can be difficult to part the negative energy associated with them. It is comforting to know, that although while we are in the midst of the darkness associated with these emotions, that light is continually striving to get in. It just takes a spark of light to send darkness running and oftentimes what we miss is that the light comes from others and life around us.
The core of our being is energy. A positive, forward motion of life. We cut our finger, our body sets into motion its powerful healing energy to seal the wound. Our emotional health is no different, but our learned negative thought patterns, fearing the worst, not being able to expect the best, introduces a negative opposition to our positive natural state. Entering into a state of mindfulness can help redirect our energy and allow light into the darkness.
Mindfulness is a state of recognition of our current state in the present. It is a state of being in the present and in the moment, without concern for the experience (past) that got us to that place. What many do not realize is that the present is not just where we are. The present is not a state of all about me, but rather a state of all that is present.
We must remember that within the same ocean of crushing waves, calm exists. Our present state includes polar opposites- somewhere- and it really doesn’t matter where, the existence of an alternate state is the same. This is where the beauty in pain can be discovered.
I realize it seems like an oxymoron to state that there is beauty in pain, but in a conscious present state we can find a spark of light or raging beams of sunshine. Regardless of any current darkness, whether it is hurt, pain, a broken heart, or disappointment, beauty exists. We just need to find the light in the world to part our darkness- even if it begins as dancing fireflies against a moonless evening sky.
There is beauty all around us- a child is being born- the rush of excitement and love fills that family’s hearts- beauty and light. People are falling in love- their hearts collide in a symphony of melodic love beats- beauty and light. A 54 year old grandpa graduates college- his wife, children, and family beam with pride over his never giving up- beauty and light.
Beauty and light exist all around us, no matter where we are. Happiness, joy, and exhilaration are happening every moment somewhere in the world. We may not see it, but it exists. The positive energy is flowing into the world that we are so interconnected with. So in our darkness, light exists- therefore, darkness cannot exist. We are destined to succeed, to be happy, and to allow our positive energy to guide us toward our greater purpose- and it was never intended that this be a solo journey.
It is true that we are born into this world alone and we will leave this world alone in the context of our physical body, but as Martin Luther King Jr. so eloquently stated, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that; Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that,” it is evident that we are interconnected to each other through the beauty of light- we need each other and the energy around us that is a part of the world.
The secret to getting unstuck when we are in that dark place is connecting to the present and this includes others. We need the positive influence and energy of those people and things around us. We need to be reminded that beauty exists. This is why people pray or meditate- they are reconnecting or trying to reconnect to beauty through hope- connecting to a positive beautiful energy.
Walking along a sandy beach, with the sun pouring down upon your skin as you listen to the crashing waves- feel the beauty- realize and recognize the beauty. Recognizing the sweet smell of orange blossoms wafting in through an open window- become aware of the beauty. We have senses for a reason, to experience- allow yourself to experience beauty. “Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it” Confucius. God made every sunrise and sunset for you.
This week, share with someone something positive each day. Seek to find ways to share a positive piece of news. I guarantee, by the end of the week, you will recognize that when you seek the beauty in the pain, that pain, like darkness cannot exist.
Have a super week! Namaste!
Jolene Church is currently working on doctoral research on critical thinking in organizational leadership. She is an accomplished motivational speaker, success coach, and the co-author of the newly released, Thinking 101: Fundamentals of a Successful Mindset- available now on Amazon in paperback and Kindle or at www.successfulthinkingmindset.com
Jolene holds Doctorate of Management in Organizational Leadership and is a certified master success coach. Jolene's writing is continually inspired by the challenges that her clients are facing. She finds constant inspiration in the world around her and is profoundly honored to be living her purpose helping others turn impossible into possible.