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When beginning any new relationship, time is of the essence. I remember when my ex-husband and I would go to work on zero sleep. We couldn’t get enough of each other. We wanted to capitalize on every moment learning everything about each other- there was just not enough time. Really, every relationship is based on time and quality of time, including the one we have with ourselves. We need to realize the significance and importance of time to foster our relationship with ourselves as we set our sights on success.
Life is not intended for us to wait around and ‘see what someone is going to do for me’ or ‘how is someone going to make me happy.’ Life is about valuing time as time is the only opportunity to accomplish the success that we have within. We are literally provided at birth what we need to exceed- moments and a lifetime. Some lifetimes are shorter than others- so what are you waiting for?
The time we take to get to know ourselves, what is important to us and drives us is critical. Reflection and getting to know who we are and what makes us tick is intended to be a humbling experience. If you cannot be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with? I believe that this is why I was so frustrated as I emerged a survivor of domestic violence with my ex. It wasn’t so much his lies to his close friends, co-workers, and his own family that bugged me, but his dishonesty with himself. Why lie to the one person that can make change?- yourself!
Our investment into ourselves pays off in infinite quantitative and qualitative results. Stop and think about this for a moment, who are you? What do you want? What is important to you?
“Desire is the starting point of all achievement,” Napoleon Hill.
If we don’t stop to think about what we desire- what is important to us, how can we achieve? More importantly, we need to evaluate what within us might lead to less than desirable results? Am I not willing to devote time? Am I not willing to optimize my time to ensure that I invest the time needed to improve me? How bad do you want it?
“When you want to be successful as bad as you want to breathe, then you will be successful,” Eric Thomas.
When you are willing to be completely honest with yourself, appreciating your shortcomings, being willing to work on improving them to optimize the time you invest in your success, then you will be successful.
Reflection is looking deep within, like a reflecting pool. Look at the surface, see the image, and then look beneath the surface. Time is of the essence, if you don’t invest the time to look and see what is there, you are missing out on opportunities.
Reflexive activity takes us from looking to improve and implementing change. For example, I see that I should spend 15 minutes every evening reading a self-improvement book, success blog like this one, and then I take action and do it. I can make excuses for what I don’t have, the time I don’t have, or I can find the time- we already have the time, we just have to be honest enough to admit we aren’t using it very well- ALL WE HAVE IS TIME! OPTIMIZE IT!
There’s no such thing as being too busy. If you really want it, you will MAKE time for it.
Jimi Hendrix once said, “I am the one who has to die when it is time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to.” I would like to expand on Jimi’s thought to this-
I am the one who is provided a lifetime to achieve. What will I choose to do with the time allotted? For when my time is complete, who do I have to hold accountable, but myself? So why not invest the time to know me? How can I make the greatest impact on this world with the time that I have been provided? I can wait around and make excuses or I can live life to the fullest- live every moment as if it were the last, placing a premium value on every moment.
“The trouble is, you THINK you have time,” Buddha. From the time we enter this world, time has us- it’s time to shift the power of success to you. Carpe Diem- Seize the moment- The are only two times in life, now and too late.
You got this. Make ‘It’ Happen! Have a great week.
Jolene Church is currently working on doctoral research on critical thinking in organizational leadership. She is an accomplished motivational speaker, success coach, and the co-author of Thinking 101: Fundamentals of a Successful Mindset- available now on Amazon in paperback and Kindle or at www.successfulthinkingmindset.com . Watch for her new books to be released in 2016, Dreams Exist and How to Write a Book in 30 Days.
Jolene holds Doctorate of Management in Organizational Leadership and is a certified master success coach. Jolene's writing is continually inspired by the challenges that her clients are facing. She finds constant inspiration in the world around her and is profoundly honored to be living her purpose helping others turn impossible into possible.